Selfishness is preoccupation with I, me, and myself. Kisa Gotami was not in a position to think about other people’ grief. It is natural to feel sad over of near and dear ones. But most people carry on their next responsibility of performing proper last rites of the . People seldom carry a **** body in the hope of some miracle happening to that. The family and the society always come together in hour of grief and sorrow.But Kisa Gotami was being 'selfish in her grief' and engrossed in her sorrow that she forgot to think about live members of her family and society.